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Navigating Life's Seasons: Systems and Synergy with Crystal P. Sherrill | Ep.21

• Kenniqua Lewter - Systems Strategist and HoneyBook Educator • Episode 21

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In this episode, I’m joined by Vision + Operation Strategist, Crystal P. Sherrill, for a powerful conversation about what it really looks like to navigate life’s many seasons while running a business. We’re talking about why work-life balance might be a myth, and how creating synergy through systems can help you feel more aligned, focused, and in control, no matter what season you’re in.

Crystal shares her approach to prioritizing what matters most, how accountability helps her stay grounded, and why not every system is one-size-fits-all (and that’s okay!). This episode is full of real talk and practical gems, especially if you’ve been feeling pulled in all directions lately.

Here’s what we dive into:

  • Why we don’t believe in work-life “balance” the way it’s usually talked about
  • How to create synergy in your life using systems that actually support you
  • The mindset shift that helped me start prioritizing based on seasons, not just schedules
  • Why accountability isn’t just helpful, it’s essential
  • How to build systems that work for your unique life and goals

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Crystal P. Sherrill (00:00)
work-life balance is not real to me. When we think of balance, balance is the even distribution of something. I mean, it's evenly distributed. And what happened is most people, they hear work-life balance, to them, they mean they have to show up in every area of their life with the same level of energy, right?

And that's just impossible. It's impossible to show up in every area of your life with this full burst of energy,

instead of work-life balance, when we start to look at it as...

Kenniqua Lewter (00:33)
All right, everyone. Welcome back to the Systems Rehab Podcast. And I am your host, Kenniqua And today I have a wonderful guest with me. have Crystal P. Sherrell. And today we're just going to be talking and diving a little bit into work-life balance and how do you go through and in essence balance it all if that even exists. So first off, welcome to the podcast, Crystal.

Crystal P. Sherrill (00:57)
Thank you for having me. It's always a pleasure.

Kenniqua Lewter (01:00)
No

problem. So me and Crystal, first off backstory, me and Crystal basically met online on Instagram, just having just me commenting on her posts, her comment on my posts. And then that began us just starting to do this coworking that we do every since. So every time you guys hear me on the podcast, we're talking about, yeah, I co-work with a young lady. This is a young lady that I'm talking about that I co-work with that keeps me accountable every single, every single week to what we're,

you know, my goals and stuff like that. So, but first go ahead and introduce yourself and then we can kind of dive right into this topic.

Crystal P. Sherrill (01:34)
Yes, well you started well. Accountability. name is Crystal P. Sherrell. I'm a vision and operation strategist. And I hope people are accountable to getting done this vision and these goals that they have on their heart, right? We come up with goals. You see so much goal setting, but then you don't see the processes and the systems and the time actually devoted to building this life and business or work, whatever you know, of your dreams. So.

That's all I do.

Kenniqua Lewter (02:04)
That's not all you do. That's a lot. That's a lot. Because what I love about everything that you do is that you have everything like down to a T. Like when you say like helping people to organize, like this is a whole nother level of like organization that I see from you. So.

Crystal P. Sherrill (02:05)
That's all I do. Yeah.

Kenniqua Lewter (02:24)
Like today, so we wanted to talk a little bit about work-life balance. And a lot of times I've probably even been a victim of saying the same thing as well in the past is trying to help people to have this work-life balance. Do you think that that's even something that we can accomplish? That's a real thing? Should we strive for this? Like what exactly, what's your take on this work-life balance thing?

Crystal P. Sherrill (02:49)
You know, work-life balance is not real to me. I'll explain what I mean by that. When we think of balance, balance is the even distribution of something. I mean, it's evenly distributed. And what happened is most people, they hear work-life balance, to them, they mean they have to show up in every area of their life with the same level of energy, right?

I gotta show up to my kids' schools and participate in all the events with the same energy that I'm gonna show up and volunteer at church or in my business or with my friend group, right? And that's just impossible. It's impossible to show up in every area of your life with this full burst of energy,

you know? And instead of work-life balance, when we start to look at it as...

Synergy, synergy with systems like every season is going to change find your ebb and your flow in whatever season you're in That's just like seasons like fall to winter right and summer to spring and spring to summer You know, we wear gloves in the wintertime. We wear flip-flops in the summertime two different systems They don't work the same. So and as every system in your life changes, you got to have different systems and You got to know what priorities in that season. So

Kenniqua Lewter (03:52)
Yeah.

So what would you say if someone was thinking or striving for work-life balance? So how do they know? Because a lot of times when we want to say quote unquote, we're doing this work-life balance, we are striving to try to do both. So we have, like you mentioned, we have the things that we're doing with our families, and then we're also doing these things with our business. And we are striving to have this so-called balance.

How do we know when we are failing in it? And like, what are the signs of us like not actually achieving this and then realizing that, okay, this is actually something that I should not strive for, that I should strive to do something else like synergy.

Crystal P. Sherrill (04:46)
You are missing the, you never meet the goal. You set them, you know, I'm gonna go to every basketball game and you don't make it to every basketball game. You're setting the bar too high in that area of your life.

You have to be okay with what you can do in that area in this season, right? Or you put too many goals on your plate for business and you never, you keep missing the mark every time. Like, you know, you are striving too high and you have to be okay with what season you're in in business, right? And find the systems that you need to operate at that level efficiently and master this level before you try to go to the next one. And so I guess the number one way out

say is if you keep setting goals and they always fall short. Yep.

Kenniqua Lewter (05:32)
Okay. All

right. Yeah, that makes sense because I know like even, think me and you talked about this because I was reading the book, uh, at the end of December, the 12 week year. And prior to me reading the 12 week year, I was going through and I was just stacking up my whole list of goals. Like I would have like 10, 15 different goals that I wanted to accomplish, but then I never realized like, okay, why didn't I hit every single last one of these goals? And a lot of it was because

one of the things you just mentioned is that I had too many goals on here. So now I really limited to two to three different goals every 12 weeks based off of the book. But that's pretty much how I like to do it from now on. When it comes to synergy, is synergy more so like, is it a feeling? Because I know sometimes, and I try not to do this anymore because I know that it's

probably not the best thing for me to do. And I'm pretty sure I already know the answer to this question, but it's not the best thing for me to do is sometimes my activities are based off of my feelings. And so, or my emotions at that time. So when I'm in high spirits and my feelings and everything are good, I can create content with no problem.

But when I'm a little bit more like I would even say, like some people, kind of run the wave even just like how your body changes every single month as a woman, your cycles and stuff like that. Those are the times where I don't want to create any type of content. I just don't feel like it. So is it, is that similar to when you're thinking about synergy is part of how you feel or is it just, if that's an aspect of it?

Crystal P. Sherrill (06:59)
here.

Mm-hmm.

That's an aspect of it. You definitely shouldn't lean on all of your feelings. You have to lean on some logic, some facts, and you gotta lean on some feelings, and you have to find a mixture of both, right? But it is a part of your feelings should be.

Involved and invested in it. So I don't want to say no your feelings don't have anything to do with it, but they do It's just it's not the only factor you have to think of hardcore facts. Like what are you capable of doing? what are priorities in this season and Then you have to also Bring in some feelings and say I don't want to do that and that's honoring your true self and how you really feeling And tapping in some more those emotional pains that you like

So no, you gotta have both, but you gotta have some facts and some feelings.

Kenniqua Lewter (08:02)
Yeah, so is there a framework to kind of determine what the priorities for? Because I think sometimes like as business owners, we don't realize exactly what is a priority for us in this particular season. I would say like for, and kind of just referencing back again, like when I started reading the book is that it really helped me to kind of narrow down what those priorities were.

So it helped me to kind of, okay, I'm not gonna do this, I'm not gonna do that, that can just wait. So it helped me to be able to go through and kind of determine those things. But is there like a framework for people to kind of understand, okay, these are the things that are priority for me, not maybe just in business, but also from a life standpoint that we should kind of be looking out for.

Crystal P. Sherrill (08:50)
Yeah, the one mistake a lot of people make is only thinking about like work and like

my house. There's other areas that are priorities that you have to consider. So I have six essential areas that I believe everyone should consider when they are finding systems and synergy in their life. It's your home, it's your family, it's your personal passions. If we take those out, we're unhappy. It's other relationships and friendships. It's servitude, just giving back.

want to give back we all want to be a part of something greater so don't take that out and most people are actually only picking life and home and then wonder why they can't remember to put their friend's birthday on their calendar because you didn't prioritize your friend's birthday that's just to be honest you didn't put them in the mix right so

We have room to do it all, but we have to find the systems that work for us. So it's about finding the combination of what's a priority in any given season. And I'll give a personal example. I'm a single mother of two and it's just me, okay? It's just me in here, right? So in any season, most mothers will try to stretch themselves thin for both kids, right? I'm not doing that.

It's a season, right? There's a season. There was a season where my son needed more of my attention, needed more of my time, and there was a season where my daughter, it happened. It's the same. What most people do is then say,

Well, I got to give everybody the same energy and now I'm tired and now I'm overwhelmed or now I can't get to my passions because I've taken them out the priority list, right and instead of saying I got to get more time to this in this moment and verse versa another moment it may change and those seasons I'm not saying they feel good or they feel comfortable but they're my truth and if I try to run from the truth then that's where anxiety and stress and everything comes from instead of saying no

I have enough capacity for this So I would definitely say when you're trying to figure out priorities though. You do have to think about urgency, right? So let's just say in your business you are Struggling to bring in income. All right, you need some R.o. You need some money in right? So what are some income? Driven activities. Are you prospecting every day, right? This is not the time to clean up your Canva. It's not that time. Okay

Kenniqua Lewter (11:13)
Yeah

Crystal P. Sherrill (11:14)
Leave that to the maintenance time when your money flowing in. But right now you need to be making outbound pitches. You need to be connecting with people on Instagram, TikTok and every other platform so that you can get your brand and your business out right. But let's say you know money consistent but

Every time you go look for a photo of you, it's everywhere and everything unorganized. You need to spend some time with your systems this season, right? And getting things in order and putting things where they belong. So every system, every season is going to be based on the urgency of where you are personally. So that's one way to know priorities is the urgency. Another way is to think about the importance of what's important to you right now. And let's say you a mother, you want to go back to school.

or whoever's watching. You want to go back to school. That's important to you, needs that you have to eventually put it on the priority list, right? And guess what? The season that you want to go back to school, you may not be able to go to every basketball game.

You got homework to do again now, right? You're adult doing homework, working. You can't go to every basketball game. But what most people do wrong is they try to stretch themselves thin. I'm gonna get to every game. I'm gonna get my work turned in. But then they wonder why they cranky when their kids ask them a question. Because you're really not happy with the decision you made or the system that you created, right? So it's about finding what's a priority, what's important, and what can wait in each season of your life.

Kenniqua Lewter (12:40)
Yeah, I love that. And I do think that that is definitely something that we all do, or at least have done, is to simply just break up the two categories between work and home, and not breaking work into many different categories, and not breaking home into many different categories as well. Because just like you said, I do find that that is the case, is that...

We even when it comes to, you said, having that category for your passion, you're trying to do that. And then trying to still cook. You're still trying to work out. You're still trying to go to the games. You're still trying to help with homework and still work and make money. And like you said, it's having knowing what the priority is for that particular season in your life. I think it's, I think it's important too, because even when it comes to priorities, I think sometimes what happens is, is that.

We know what the priorities is and we know what's important. like, for example, even you use the example of needing to make more money, right? You're not making enough money in your business and you need to be prospecting. But sometimes what happens is, is that we're like, that's a hard task. That's hard. So then I'm just going to put that off and then I am going to clean up the Canva or I am going to...

go and do this. So what would you say to people that are, they know that it's a priority or maybe they know that it's important, but they kind of just like want to just push it to the back burner because it's not the most easiest thing to do.

Crystal P. Sherrill (14:12)
Deal with what's really happening. You have to deal with the problem, right? So let's say you are, it's not the easiest thing that comes to you. How do you solve this problem? Like, what solution do you need to solve this problem? Do I need to outsource this? Okay, money funny, but let me find somebody on Fiverr. Or maybe I got a friend who can help me out. How do you resolve the problem and still move forward, right? And how do you unblock?

as quickly as possible so you can continue moving forward. But you also gotta address the procrastination, right? And that habit of procrastination. So why do you default to that as your, as procrastination? And how do you get?

The problem solved. So it's like a two part. You gotta do both. Cause something's happening the reason why you keep putting the task off, right? It could be the fear of I'm gonna mess it up. I don't know what I'm doing. Or this is gonna take too long. It's gonna take away from this, right? It could be a lot of things coming up. So you gotta address the feeling, but you also gotta find a solution. The solution is out there. It's out there already. You just gotta find it for you.

Kenniqua Lewter (15:14)
idea.

Yeah, I'm just wondering too, because I know a lot of times because a lot of the clients that we work in work with as well, they need systems for their business. But a lot of the times once they do come to us is at the point where they needed the system like yesterday. And so a lot of people are not necessarily like proactive, like, I see that I'm having trouble. And then they proactively it's it's when it starts to hurt.

when people start to go through and find solutions. So, I mean, I guess my question would be is, is there something that we should be looking out for, whether it is for business or personal to say, okay, I am at this particular point now, I should start looking for help versus waiting until it's...

Crystal P. Sherrill (16:04)
Hmm,

Kenniqua Lewter (16:04)
kind of just like

Crystal P. Sherrill (16:05)
okay.

Kenniqua Lewter (16:05)
really, really taking over.

Crystal P. Sherrill (16:07)
Okay, I get your question. Yes. Okay, I get your question. That's a hard one though.

believe everything needs a plan. I'm not saying hold on to your plan tightly, but I believe you need a starting point.

I give the example of proactive thinking versus reactive thinking as like the burners on a stove, a gas stove, right? If you are reactive in your thoughts all the time or your decision-making process, you're just like tick, tick, tick, tick, tick, nothing's coming to you, because you've made too many decisions throughout the day, right? You're making decisions on...

Kenniqua Lewter (16:38)
Mm-hmm.

Crystal P. Sherrill (16:40)
things that you don't need to. And then when you need to make a real true decision, right? I need to decide how do I get a resource? Who do I reach out to? You've been fatigued by making other smaller, non-important decisions and now you just ticking, right? And nothing's lightened. I will say, so it's a combination. You gotta take some things off your plate so you can figure out what to focus on.

That's that's a hard question because it could be a lot of different ways let's narrow down Let's come up with an example. Give me an example. Give me a specific example

Kenniqua Lewter (17:12)
Yeah, so let's say for, and yeah, it is a difficult question because I would say more likely than not is, if I were to say anything, I guess, about answering the question, I'm trying to think of an example in my head, but I guess I would say anything about an example of answering that question is really how a person starts to feel. Because I think we kind of recognize our feelings first through things.

Crystal P. Sherrill (17:22)
Yeah.

Kenniqua Lewter (17:35)
Because if you start to feel overwhelmed, then you kind of start to realize that there is a problem at certain points or, yeah, it's kind of, I'm trying to think of an example. I'm processing right now to try to think of an example.

Crystal P. Sherrill (17:46)
Yeah,

and we're gonna think through it. Like, let's process it, right? So how do you know that you need a system in place before it gets to the part where it's already too late, right?

Kenniqua Lewter (17:59)
Yeah, and

I guess I would say like kind of like what you were kind of leading to though, like with the proactiveness because I think that

Crystal P. Sherrill (18:05)
It's a

mindset change. That's why I'm like, there's no indications. There are no indications. mean...

Kenniqua Lewter (18:09)
Yeah.

Crystal P. Sherrill (18:11)
Okay, not to say there's no indications. You will feel some stress in this area. Okay, look out for areas that cause you high stress. You will begin to get frustrated, right, in this particular area. You will start to feel overwhelmed in this area. You can start to feel sad in this area. There are emotions that are tied to, getting to the edge of burnout, right, in this particular area. I need a change. I need a system. I need a process. So there are emotional factors.

Yes, 100 % and the only way to combat those emotional factors is that when the emotion comes up you have to figure out what area of your life really needs this new system. So I guess you are right. I guess we're both right because you say the emotions and the feelings and now I know what you mean. So yes, you do have to be aware of what areas are causing you the most

physical or emotional strain And how to deal with them So let's say you every time you go to send an invoice to a new client It's it takes you three hours you frustrated you Can't remember what what template to use what button to see in you can't remember any of that You don't have an email you got to write a new email every time if that frustrates you you need a system there and

Another indicator if you're not meeting your goal. So if you are not, the simplest thing, so we got, I wanna take systems away from software too. So you'll see, you'll hear me a lot, you know, I'll remove systems away from software, cause it's not even about software. Let's say you have a 6 a.m. alarm to get up on time for work. Every day you snooze it until 6 45. The six o'clock alarm is not working. You, it's not working, but people think that that's an effective system.

Kenniqua Lewter (19:32)
Mm-hmm.

Crystal P. Sherrill (19:56)
My system is to snooze it three times. Ineffective. Ineffective. But most people have built those type of systems in their life so they feel like they're efficient. They're not efficient. Should you be going to sleep earlier so you can truly get up at 6 a.m.? That sounds like a better system than to snooze until you only got 45 minutes to get ready for work every day and get there.

Kenniqua Lewter (20:16)
Yeah. Then you're rushing

out the door and you're forgetting stuff and it kind of sends your day, your morning in a whole spiral.

Crystal P. Sherrill (20:23)
a whole spiral,

you whole spiral, but because that's been your system is I can snooze up until this time I keep doing it. And now that has become my new system, although it's ineffective. So if the goal is I want to be up by 6 a.m. so I can get a 30 minute workout in on YouTube, right? Then get ready for work.

then you need to go to bed early so you can get up at 6 a.m. That's a better system. So that's why I said it's a two part, emotions, feelings like you're saying, but it's also what are your goals and are you meeting them? If you're not meeting your goals, it's a clear indicator that you don't have a system or a process in that area. Okay. Okay.

Kenniqua Lewter (20:59)
Yeah, yeah, that's what I would say.

Feelings and not meeting your goals are like our dead giveaways. That there's something that's not working. It's funny that you said that too, because that's how I was too. Cause I was trying to go through just with a workout example. I was trying to do the exact same thing. Let me try to get up early. Let me try to get up at 6 a.m. But now I realize that like you said, my system in place of getting up 6 a.m. it wasn't working because I wasn't going to bed till like midnight or 1 a.m.

So how can I expect to get up at 6 a.m. if I'm only having five hours? I've only had five hours worth of sleep. And so then I started going through and saying, okay, I'm gonna cut it off where I'm going to bed at 11 a.m. I mean, going to bed at 11 p.m. Now it's so much easier for me to get up at 6.30 a.m. or whatever. You know, it makes it easier than to just say, hey, I'm just gonna wing it at night and go to sleep whenever I want to, whenever my favorite show goes off. And then I'm just gonna expect to get up.

Crystal P. Sherrill (21:28)
with energy. ⁓

Kenniqua Lewter (21:53)
And then no, my morning system has to be supported by my night system, you know? So, yeah.

Crystal P. Sherrill (21:58)
Yes, and all the

systems, all systems are connected. They're all, if you think about under the hood of any car, everything, I don't know what all them pieces are, but they all move to do something to make my car go, right? So all those things work together and they all are depending on the other system to be working.

so that everything can be functioning. It's the same. So your night routine does affect your morning routine. Your morning routine affects your work routine and how cranky you are. Your work routine affect how cranky you are when you come home with the kids and your husband or your wife. All the systems connect. So you have to figure out how are you feeling in those different areas and are you meeting the goals in those different areas. So yeah.

Kenniqua Lewter (22:31)
Yeah. ⁓

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I love that. I love that. So, okay, so now we've gone through, so we kind of talked about like, how do you go through and know exactly where you may be falling short, like the signs of it and knowing that, okay, I have to prioritize this and during these different seasons of life, during life and business. Like I know even for myself and me, you talked about this before, like I'm redoing my website.

Crystal P. Sherrill (22:42)
Final answer.

Kenniqua Lewter (23:09)
redoing my offers, changing over my business systems because it's like, okay, I don't want to have to do as many discovery calls as I was doing before because now the season of life, I don't have time to do as many discovery calls. And I'd say I'm going to eliminate them, but I want to offer different options for how to get started working with me. Right. So definitely seasons of life, I think really do really do play a part. So

If someone was wanting to go through and they're like, okay, I'm listening to this. And yeah, there's definitely points in my life where there's this things that's not connected. You know, I'm not, I, I'm not getting my workouts in. maybe not maybe feeling in business or whatever it is because you help with systems all around work and life. how, how was, how was a way that they can go through and they can work with you on this?

Crystal P. Sherrill (24:02)
Well, it's a few ways, but the main way is accountability because most likely you already have everything you need. That always shocks people. They're like, no, I'm missing this. I don't have this tool. I don't have this knowledge. You have everything you need, but if it's not organized in a way that makes it functional for you, you're not using it correctly, right? So.

I want to say that because I think a lot of people think that they need to add all these things on. It's like, no, you just need to reorganize your life. That's it. It's really come down to it and accountability once you do that. So plan to focus is our online coworking community is coworking is systems coaching. It is all the things life and work. And we were in a coworking session last week and someone the next day, they was like, sorry, you know, I went off.

line or kind of was silent and she said I was shampooing my carpets. Like she just needs to shampoo her carpets because it's been a task that feels hard. She doesn't want to do it and she uses the co-working sessions to shampoo her house. So it's not everything is not about work. Everything is not about business and systems. You got things around you that you need to keep in place. So plan the focus is where we do co-working. If you are a working professional, you can come to plan focus. It's not just for business owners.

you are an entrepreneur though, we do have an entrepreneur plan and that comes with systems coaching for your business, right? So you are getting workflows and software, technology, all the things in place for your business, financial management systems, know, whatever area you are feeling the pain point, we discuss that in systems coaching. We also do morning meetups and check-ins. When you are going under...

You're undergoing a change. You need some accountability because the brain wants to stop. Okay. The brain wants to divert and abort mission. Okay. So how do you keep yourself going? This is why so many people start something and then they fall off. Start fall off, start fall off is because they have no one checking in and saying, Hey, what happened? How can I help you? Where'd you go? What you need? What we need to do. Right. And just keeping them accountable that

Kenniqua Lewter (26:02)
Mm-hmm.

Crystal P. Sherrill (26:09)
I'ma keep your goal in front of you. And when I keep your goal in front of you and I'm checking in to make sure that you're meeting the goal, you jump back on. You're like, all right, let me jump back on. And normally by yourself, accountability can be hard.

Some people, we ain't gonna talk about that today, say that you don't need accountability, accountability should be self-accountable. Yeah, that works for some people, but when you are overcoming some type of deep mindset issue or you're overcoming rejection or shame or doubt, uncertainty, just whatever, it's not that easy. It's not as easy as said is done. So I definitely say having some accountability and playing the focus is what you need.

Kenniqua Lewter (26:51)
Yeah, I think accountability is important. I know what part you're talking about, about the accountability from within or whatever. And yeah, that's the part I didn't, I did not really agree with is because yeah, I do think accountability is not something that you could just, mean, to a certain degree, maybe you can find it within yourself, but for the most part, I think that accountability is with other people because a lot of times

Crystal P. Sherrill (26:57)
Yeah.

Yeah, I think accountability

within is discipline. That's what that is, right? That's just being disciplined, right? So this is not about discipline. This is about, have to push through something very, very, a new hard change, right? Something that I'm unfamiliar with, something that may feel scary for most people.

Kenniqua Lewter (27:19)
Yeah, that's what that would be. Yeah.

Yeah.

Crystal P. Sherrill (27:34)
Those type of changes don't come with self accountability all the time, right? They come with someone else holding you accountable and That's that's really what playing the focus is is making sure that you stay focused on the goal that you set for yourself Nobody setting goals for you. You send them right and I just want to make sure you stay focused on your goals That's all because I want you to get to them. So that's what we do there. And that's a great way to Connect over there in the community. It's just not just me so

Kenniqua Lewter (27:48)
Yeah.

Crystal P. Sherrill (28:02)
community of business owners and working professionals and then off also is like wanting to dive deeper in personal systems for life and work then yes I guess some coaching opportunities.

Kenniqua Lewter (28:13)
Love that, love that.

All right, so if we're gonna wrap up this episode, but if you were to kind of give one thing that you just want to drive home about what we're talking about, the work-life balance, what would it be? If you want the listeners to remember anything else about this episode.

Crystal P. Sherrill (28:30)
All systems are not created equal.

do not feel bad if you are trying someone else's system and it is not working for you. It may not be your system, okay? You may not be a 5 a.m. gym girly, okay? You really may not be her, right? So oftentimes they will see influencers and we'll see in this digital space of so many people giving us their version and we feel once we can't live up to that version that...

that doesn't work for us, we just can't do that thing. No, you have the wrong system. You just have to find the system that works for you. So that's the one thing I want people to remember. All systems are not created equally, literally and figuratively, but we want to make sure that you are finding the systems that work for you, your family, your job, your goals, your business. They're all different, you know? So I wanna...

Kenniqua Lewter (29:10)
You

Crystal P. Sherrill (29:21)
say that because I think a lot of people are trying systems out here, even software, right? Trying software, wondering why still not feeling good about this process, because it's not the software for you. Just because somebody had an affiliate link don't mean you were supposed to get it, okay? So it's really about diving in and understanding what systems you need. So that's what I would want to leave with.

Kenniqua Lewter (29:27)
⁓ huh.

Love it. Love it. Why I appreciate you sharing all of your gems here on the podcast. And I guess the final question that I have, because I like to ask everybody this because I try to make sure I'm reading all the books. Is there a book that you're currently reading at this point that you would think it's something that we should check out too or something? It doesn't even have to be that you're reading right now. It even be something that's in the past. Any book recommendations?

Crystal P. Sherrill (30:06)
Yes, I am reading the book right now and it is feel like it is changing my life. I'm no lie. It's called the courage to be disliked and

Kenniqua Lewter (30:14)
Okay

Crystal P. Sherrill (30:15)
It I'm almost done with it. I'll be done with it today because but no it's about I would tell anyone who is struggling with any form of rejection or fear of rejection or fear of success or fear of not fitting in Not knowing how to be authentic because that is something in this space that everyone says but no one gives I not saying no one I don't see a lot of practical advice on how to be

authentic, right? This book is really helping me to understand me and my greatness just by myself not having to compare myself to anyone is a really good book. It's called The Courage to Be Disliked. Yes.

Kenniqua Lewter (30:43)
Mm-hmm.

The courage, I'm looking it up right now. The courage to be disliked. Yeah, I have to check that. I'm gonna have to check that out.

Crystal P. Sherrill (30:57)
Yes.

It

is really good. It is really helping me understand what being authentic means. And like I said, I don't see a lot of people with the practical day to day, how to be authentic, right? Telling someone to do something is not giving them a step. That's not a step, right? That's just telling me I have a problem, right?

And this book has really helped me understand what being me authentically means. I'm really, yeah. I will say it's probably a life-changing book for me.

Kenniqua Lewter (31:28)
Yeah,

okay. I'm gonna have to, yeah, I'm gonna have to check that out. It's this, it's this red one, right? It's red. Yeah, okay. Yeah, I'm gonna have to check that out. I'm gonna have check that out.

Crystal P. Sherrill (31:34)
Mm-hmm. Yep.

Yeah, I actually said I'm

gonna do a book review on like I'm gonna do my first book review on YouTube just of that book Like it is really it's really good. So

Kenniqua Lewter (31:47)
Yeah, I'm to check that out. Cause I struggle with that as well. Just trying to go through. And I guess the balance of trying to do video and like you said, like show up online. Like, I don't know. Like I think sometimes even my personality doesn't necessarily always come out on doing video and like maybe what I put online, but yet I joke around all the time, you know? Like, and so.

I don't think it always, you know, maybe translates and stuff like that. So, yeah.

Crystal P. Sherrill (32:17)
Yeah, and it's

helping me in that area. I will say that because I feel the same thing. feel like when I'm in a personal space, people see my colorfulness, right? This big, this bold, colorful personality. But in my content, wasn't feeling like that version of me was able to come out. And I had to really, really dig deep and figure out what's really happening that...

Kenniqua Lewter (32:27)
Yeah.

Crystal P. Sherrill (32:40)
This version is here and this version is what's showing up, right? Like they're not, they're not, this don't make sense. So it's been really, I will say, you gotta read it. I'm being honest. We're talking about it more. Yeah, we're talking about it more, but you gotta read the book. It's really good.

Kenniqua Lewter (32:49)
I'ma, I'ma, I'ma get it.

Yeah, I'm gonna get it added added to my Amazon cart. So yeah, I definitely need to check that out. But I appreciate you coming on the podcast. Thank you so much. And I'm pretty sure that our listeners, viewers will get a lot of tips and information from this and be motivated to start understanding how to prioritize the things that they have in their life and.

Crystal P. Sherrill (32:57)
Hehehe. ⁓

Kenniqua Lewter (33:19)
understanding that they don't have to try to balance it all. So I love everything that you shared. Thank you.

Crystal P. Sherrill (33:23)
Yeah. All right.

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